I live in Cambodia, located in Southeast asia,and sorry my english is not my 1st language. u know here family are very strictly tight up with the old tradition,mean u cant marry someone who father and mother dont like, sometime they match us even we never know before. u know i and my girlfriend love each other 4 years, i work in the City but my gf's family is a farmer, they live in the province 300KM away from,we've made many good memories during my public holiday,we keep contact each other by the phone,we love each other so much,her family also like me,but you u my family spcially my mother always say to me that SHE DONT WANT ME TO MARRY TO THE CONTRYSIDE GIRL,POOR FAMILY,FARMER FAMILY,u know when i heard this how hard i am,i didnt say anything back to her or i will be more blame when my gf know this she very upset u know i m old enough to think of my life why with this old tradion i m so hard like this i think now i should leave them and be on my own. this is the right way?
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old traditions die hard. arranged marriages were to gain power, secure lands or title. if you are in love and can live life away from your family, marry her. marriage is about two people-live your lives for yourselves, not for your parents. in the end, if you and your spouse are happy, your parents will accept it and in time be happy for you.
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OK, first of all your English is better than some people I know. I'm not familiar with your customs. but I think feelings of love is universal. everyone feels the same. I think you would want to marry someone you truly love regardless what your parents think, however it would be better if you had their blessing. is there any way you can convince them how you feel?? is it considered disrespectful to them to tell them your feelings? I think as parents they love you and would want you to be happy, if you are in love with this girl you need to tell them so. You have the rest of your life to think about. this is no small thing. I would strongly suggest that you talk to your parents to let them know how you feel. you owe it to yourself and your girlfriend. to be honest. who knows? maybe in time they will agree that you 2 should be married. if everything else fails you can always pack her up and the 2 of you can move to Canada. We won't tell you who you can or can not marry. Good Luck! I really hope everything works out for you.
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Be with the girl you love or you will regret it for the rest of your life, your family might not agree with your choice but they are not the ones who will be living your life, if you choice to go against them yes it will probably be difficult but tradition is not always the best way, be prepared for there repracautions just incase they shut you out, If you are as serious about this girl as you say maybe you will start your own family and help break that.
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i feel for you, i truly do, love is absolutly wonderful, but sometimes it can be extreamly painful. this is quite complicated but ill help u as much as i can, You dont want to loose your family cos they are extreamily important, if anything they are one of the most important part of your life, and i respect u that you can control ure rage and i anger when ure mother says not to marry poor countryside girls, that shows a lot of respect against what u feel. so what u should do!, well if you love her, tell ure mom that u love her, and theres no other person you want to be with than her (i guessing thats how u feel? cos thats how i felt with my first love) and i guessing if they dont understand tell them again, bring the girl around if u have too, make them realise that no other person matters than this person. you obviuosly dont want to say no to ure girl cos, u love her and it will hurt A LOT!! knowing two ppl love each other and cant see each other because of their parents. so do what u can to convince ure parents that u love her and its from the heart and its the ffeling inside and that no1 else in the world matters to you. ure parents are only worried for u!! that she will cheat u and use u for ure money, this must hurt what i said but im am looking at it from ure parents point of view,!! if you are 1 MILLION % sure that she loves you for who you are and not for your money then i think you should do whatever i takes to convince ure parents BUT u should NOT leave ure parents, when u get older u will regret it i garantee you!! wouldnt it be great that ure parents accepted her!! and ure love together!! if u want ure family to accept her, FIGHT for it tell them but dont ever loose ure respect for them and DONT leave them cos it will come back to hunt u!! if they dont accpet her tell them this, tell your parents "your happiness for the rest of your life is with her, and u want them to be part of your happiness" beg them if you have to and tell them that u know she loves u and shes not using u for ure money !! tell them this cos i know parents, they are only considering u !! never the girl. i hope this helps good luck i feel for u and hope the best for u take care
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