Monday, February 21, 2011

if you were me what should you do with the family strictly tight up with the old tradition

if you were me what should you do with the family strictly tight up with the old tradition?
I live in Cambodia, located in Southeast asia,and sorry my english is not my 1st language. u know here family are very strictly tight up with the old tradition,mean u cant marry someone who father and mother dont like, sometime they match us even we never know before. u know i and my girlfriend love each other 4 years, i work in the City but my gf's family is a farmer, they live in the province 300KM away from,we've made many good memories during my public holiday,we keep contact each other by the phone,we love each other so much,her family also like me,but you u my family spcially my mother always say to me that SHE DONT WANT ME TO MARRY TO THE CONTRYSIDE GIRL,POOR FAMILY,FARMER FAMILY,u know when i heard this how hard i am,i didnt say anything back to her or i will be more blame when my gf know this she very upset u know i m old enough to think of my life why with this old tradion i m so hard like this i think now i should leave them and be on my own. this is the right way?
Other - Family & Relationships - 4 Answers
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old traditions die hard. arranged marriages were to gain power, secure lands or title. if you are in love and can live life away from your family, marry her. marriage is about two people-live your lives for yourselves, not for your parents. in the end, if you and your spouse are happy, your parents will accept it and in time be happy for you.
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OK, first of all your English is better than some people I know. I'm not familiar with your customs. but I think feelings of love is universal. everyone feels the same. I think you would want to marry someone you truly love regardless what your parents think, however it would be better if you had their blessing. is there any way you can convince them how you feel?? is it considered disrespectful to them to tell them your feelings? I think as parents they love you and would want you to be happy, if you are in love with this girl you need to tell them so. You have the rest of your life to think about. this is no small thing. I would strongly suggest that you talk to your parents to let them know how you feel. you owe it to yourself and your girlfriend. to be honest. who knows? maybe in time they will agree that you 2 should be married. if everything else fails you can always pack her up and the 2 of you can move to Canada. We won't tell you who you can or can not marry. Good Luck! I really hope everything works out for you.
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Be with the girl you love or you will regret it for the rest of your life, your family might not agree with your choice but they are not the ones who will be living your life, if you choice to go against them yes it will probably be difficult but tradition is not always the best way, be prepared for there repracautions just incase they shut you out, If you are as serious about this girl as you say maybe you will start your own family and help break that.
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i feel for you, i truly do, love is absolutly wonderful, but sometimes it can be extreamly painful. this is quite complicated but ill help u as much as i can, You dont want to loose your family cos they are extreamily important, if anything they are one of the most important part of your life, and i respect u that you can control ure rage and i anger when ure mother says not to marry poor countryside girls, that shows a lot of respect against what u feel. so what u should do!, well if you love her, tell ure mom that u love her, and theres no other person you want to be with than her (i guessing thats how u feel? cos thats how i felt with my first love) and i guessing if they dont understand tell them again, bring the girl around if u have too, make them realise that no other person matters than this person. you obviuosly dont want to say no to ure girl cos, u love her and it will hurt A LOT!! knowing two ppl love each other and cant see each other because of their parents. so do what u can to convince ure parents that u love her and its from the heart and its the ffeling inside and that no1 else in the world matters to you. ure parents are only worried for u!! that she will cheat u and use u for ure money, this must hurt what i said but im am looking at it from ure parents point of view,!! if you are 1 MILLION % sure that she loves you for who you are and not for your money then i think you should do whatever i takes to convince ure parents BUT u should NOT leave ure parents, when u get older u will regret it i garantee you!! wouldnt it be great that ure parents accepted her!! and ure love together!! if u want ure family to accept her, FIGHT for it tell them but dont ever loose ure respect for them and DONT leave them cos it will come back to hunt u!! if they dont accpet her tell them this, tell your parents "your happiness for the rest of your life is with her, and u want them to be part of your happiness" beg them if you have to and tell them that u know she loves u and shes not using u for ure money !! tell them this cos i know parents, they are only considering u !! never the girl. i hope this helps good luck i feel for u and hope the best for u take care

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Monday, February 14, 2011

Why is it so awesome to live in a civiIized country

Why is it so awesome to live in a civiIized country?
After visiting Jamaica, Haiti, South Africa, India, Cambodia, and Mexico, I am now so proud of my country, America. It feel so good to be from here, enjoy good education, and listen to people speaking fluent english. The pidgin english of Jamaica made my head hurt! The extreme vioIence wicknessed in those countries isn't readiIy found in our country (except for ghettos). Country, I HAVE BEEN TO THOSE COUNTRIES! I know what I'm talking about.
Politics - 7 Answers
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LOL, this country is starting to become like Haiti.
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We do live in a great, great nation. As a world traveler myself (18 countries outside the US), I have truly come to appreciate my home country: the good ol' USA!
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1. Building codes (Haiti vs. Japan) 2. Lower rates of corrupt officials 3. Medical care 4. Health codes (ask my colon)
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I would like to point out that those countries are "ghettos" because of "civilized people" disrupting their hunter/gatherer tribal lives. They are poor because Western Civ invented the concept of poverty. I'm glad you're so excited about toiling at a desk for your entire life in order to buy Doritos and watch a glowing box.
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India isn't violent, and neither is Cambodia.
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Umm, have you seen the rural poverty in the USA? Explored our great cities? Get out of your suburb and see the real America. 1 in 6 Americans don't have enough food to eat and we have malnourished children.
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Why is it so awesome to live in a civiIized country? After visiting Jamaica, Haiti, South Africa, India, Cambodia, and Mexico, I am now so proud of my country, America. It feel so good to be from here, enjoy good education, and listen to people speaking fluent english. Well, the U.S is being turned over to these people. They will be the majority in America one day. So expect the U.S to become the beautiful, highly educated, English speaking utopia they come from.

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Monday, February 7, 2011

I really need your advice, should i ask my family or let the time goes on

I really need your advice, should i ask my family or let the time goes on??
i live in Cambodia,the place where we have to respect to family, specially mother and father, and sorry my english is not good. i and my girlfriend love each other nearly 4 years, i live in the city but my gf's family is a farmer. i work in the Hotel in City and she is seller in the market 291KM from me, we always keep contact each other on the phone,on my holiday we have made many good memories, that words cant tell you enough. but you know what? my mother say she didnt want me to marry to the farmer girl, poor family, when my gf know this she very upset, i really dont want her upset and now in my mind i think that i want to push my mother to engage me with her then we gonna marry next year cos within this 4 years we just a boyfriend and girlfriend. does my mother agree to this? How can i explain to my mother so that she understand about my love? what should i do plase tell me ???
Family - 4 Answers
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I don't know the custom in your country but you are both old enough to get married without your mother's permission. Tell your mother that you want to marry this girl and would like to have her blessing but you are going to do it without her blessing if you have to.
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sounds like you have to choose. talk to your mother tell her how your heart is filled with love for the girl you want to be your wife.And how happy marring with your heart would make you and in doing so what a wonderful family you would have with loads of beautiful happy grand babies in the future for her to be proud of.and if she still says no then yes you will have to make a choice your family or your heart.
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I really pity with your situation right now. All you need to do now is to be strong, have faith in god and yourself hope miracle do happen. To me, status is not a big issue as we are suppose to be open minded and not too strictly tight up with the old tradition. No matter if the person whom we love is poor, not pretty or what so ever, it's the heart that counts. Even if your mother match you up to a rich girl and you do not like her, the marriage won't works. You have to explain to your mother that way but not to offend her. You could also get some help from someone close or reliable to help you in this situation. I'm a lady and i understand how your girlfriend felt when she knew that she can't marry you. Give your mother some time to think about it but do not push her hard. Just believe in fate. If the two of you are meant for each other, no matter which part of the world you are in, you will still be together one day. Let time decides.. Gd luck!
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I live in US so it's different customs here. In US when a man and woman falls in love and they want to make a life together, it's they're life and they're concern. Family interferes at risk of being left out of the young couples life. You have a hard call my friend. Most people who do not follow they're own hearts tend to regret it no matter what part of the world they're in.

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Tuesday, February 1, 2011

I'm thinking of retiring in Cambodia, is it a good idea

I'm thinking of retiring in Cambodia, is it a good idea?
I currently live in Australia and my wife is from Cambodia. When I retire I thought my pension might go a lot further in Cambodia than here in Australia so I was wondering what problems I might encounter if I retired in Cambodia.
Other - Asia Pacific - 3 Answers
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Is the area you will stay safe enough? What about medicine and other necessary aspects? What about tax system? Have you been to Cambodia at all? If not, try a short stay first.
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Yes, it is a beautiful country and quite cheap. However you need to check that you can get the best medical care.
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Your money will definately go futher but what about quality of life. I recently spend 10 days traveling around. It is really dirty and dusty. I have allergies so that wasn't the best place to go. The culture can be alittle overwelming, especially the constant beggars and peddlers. But I will say that Cambodia is an exotic and wonderful place. There is a big expat community in Phnom Phen, Sihanouville, and Siem Reap. I will also agree with the medical aspect. There isn't very good places to go and you will probally get sick alot. I got food posioning and I was really careful. All things to think about. I have lived in Asia for four years and love it. If you are flexable, and are up for an adventure I would say go for it. If you like the modern comforts of society I might suggest to think twice.

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