when nothing you have ever said or done would indicate that you are? One of my contacts I've been IM'ing with for around 10 months suddenly lit into me claiming that my family and I were racist and the plague of humanity simply because I explained that I'm English, French and Swedish when he asked why I was so fair. I have never made a single racist or xenophobic remark. The reason I have absolutely no attraction to him is because he is a 30 year old man, and I'm 17 and have a boyfriend my own age. It has nothing to do with the color of his skin, but the fact that he is so old. I pointed out all the volunteer work I've done abroad - I spent the summer I was 15 in South America, and have also volunteered in Ethiopia and Cambodia. I live in LA and attend a very culturally diverse school. There is nothing, repeat, nothing that is racist about me. And I've known all along that he is Asian, and that didn't affect my decision to stay in touch with him at all. I'm just literally shaking right now. He wrote the most hateful, spiteful, horrific things such as "you better hope you don't run into any "******" who will drown you," and "the world would be better off if you and your family burned to death." I'm just shocked. I'm literally shaking. I've never had anyone write such nasty things to me before in my life. I kept explaining that I am not at all racist, and asking for why he would think that, and he just raged on. He told me he hoped I killed myself, and that I'd be doing the world a favor if I did. It was just totally psycho and deeply hurtful and confusing. How would you feel in the same situation? I already said that I was sorry if he somehow thought I was racist and assured him that I am not, but he just wouldn't stop. It was like he had to attack me as cruelly as possible. Guffbal: what does "iggy" mean? Ignore? Thx for your answer & the links. : )
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I'd feel a bit mad but relieved I didn't end up in a relationship with such an unstable person (Though you weren't thinking about entering into one anyways so it doesn't really matter). In the end though, he's clearly got issues and isn't being a very good friend. I'd forget 'em.
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why are you talking to a guy who is so much older then you in the first place? Odds are this fella had an idea of what he wanted out of you, and when you dashed his hopes of getting with you, he jumped to the conclusion that you were a racist. He has some serious issues, and honestly you need to at the very least iggy this guy. If he sends you anything else, let your parents or maybe even the law know that he is stalking you. He only took out his anger in you because of his own twisted idea of what he considers normal. He probably hopes that he will upset you so much that you apologize to him and in turn you let down your defenses. this guy is probably already known to local law enforcement as a stalker or possibly a child molester. Avoid this guy!
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Stay away from this guy. Serious. I think he is just mad he has no shot with you, He's got nothing to lose he thinks so he bursts it all out - I think. This is just sad, this guy has some real problems and I personally have no idea how you have been talking to him for 10 months. Remember though, this is the interenet and some people are just like that. Because they're lacking some confidence in their real lifes or are not mature yet. Don't let it get to you as their is nothing racist about you. On the contrary I find that you have lived a nice adventurous life with nothing whatsoever relating you to the word racist. He's hallucinating and he's paranoid and I think he got attached to you or wants something more. Stop shaking and start making action. If this guy does not come back to his senses and continues to send these messages then block him, and stop all ways of contact with him. Try talking to him for one last time and that's it. He's an internet poser an a loner and he's not safe. And you don't deserve to be treated like that or get your family into such humilation. My advice would be for you to stay away from him. Take care.
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