Friday, September 7, 2012

Can my sister's Cambodian Husband do the following

Can my sister's Cambodian Husband do the following?
My sister was married to an Englishman here in the states in that time they had a child who is currently 5 years old when the child was 2 his dad past away and my sister marry a Cambodian 2 years later in their marriage the Cambodian husband adopted my nephew as his own son however, my sister past away a couple of months ago went to probate and her husband inherit everything she own and had. Our concern is that her husband wants to go live back in Cambodia and wants to take my nephew with him and he doesn't get along well with us can he do this if he wants since everything is legally his and my nephew is legally adopted to him any suggestions please!
Marriage & Divorce - 11 Answers
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WOW..talk to an attorney...this is very iffy. He is legally the father...but this is really a different thing. Make him a deal...keep all the money and stuff and give you the kid. I bet he does it!
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Call a Family Law Attorney.
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No
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You could contact his lawyer and see if he wants to let you adopt or foster the child since the child isn't his but your sister's. Too bad your sister didn't set something up so that the child would be taken care of in case of her demise. It's time like these I tell people make a general will and be sure that people are designated to take care of their children. You could also file a suit to keep the child in the United States. Cambodia is no place for a child, its pretty third world, in fact it has the highest rate of HIV in the world.
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You can try to gain adoption of him by terms of these fears and that he has been raised in, and is familiar with the UK. Do seek legal advice, not yahoo advice. Sorry to hear about your loss. Good luck with things.
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no
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yes he can leave with the child he has a right too it unless your sister made a will saying who would get the child but if he is willing to let you take the boy then go for it if not i would go to court over it but more then likely sorry to say it he has a right the boys is his son.
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I'm pretty sure he can do it. As the child is legally his son now. It is very unfortunate you all don't get along, sounds to me like your nephew is going to be losing some family ties. As well as yourself.
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get a lawyer, see to it the child recives half of everything in a trust fund, it was his mom. perhaps file to adopt the child, Cambodia holds nothing for this white boy.
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You need good lawyer jm As your sister has passed away and as her first husband passed away and thus has nothing to do with the whole story, the fact that you don't like your brother in law probably cannot prevent him from going back to his native Cambodia. He adopted your sister's child from previous marriage and thus has the right to take the child (if under aged) with him unless some compelling ground exists that would prove that the child would be subject to maltreatment or persecution. The only persecution I can see from your story is that you yourself do not like your sister's second husband. Presumably she chose him by her own free will and you do not belong in that relationship. I'd try and get on with your brother in law if I were you - It comes a lot cheaper than lawmen.
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If the adoption was final, yes, he can do whatever he wants since the child is legally his. Try being nicer and kissing his butt if you want to see your nephew.






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Saturday, September 1, 2012

Mission trip to Cambodia

Mission trip to Cambodia?
Hi. I'm going to help out on a mission trip to Cambodia, but I am kind of apprehensive about the trip. I live in the U.S. and have traveled across the U.S. by plane 9 times or so, and I have no difficulty doing so. But I am a little nervous flying overseas for 14 hours with China Airlines (who from what I've heard do not have an excellent reputation when it comes to safety). I also have to fly with Bangkok Airlines, but I do not know anything about them. On top of all of this, I have never been outside the U.S. (except for Canada), and I have no clue what Cambodia is like. I am also a little nervous about the amount of disease in Cambodia. I am really excited, but I am kind of apprehensive about the trip. Any suggestions will be appreciated! Thanks!
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no, don't worry. traveled from cambodia 2 taiwan n from taiwan to usa. nothin happened only when the weatheris bad, like when the plane was trying to land in taiwan it was raining hard and fogs was in the way. but it's ok. don't worry avout the disease. let me guss, u gonna go teaching people in english right. more imformations at myspace.com/sovisal, or sovisalsameth@yahoo.com
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Please don't worry -- you're going to have an amazing time. Cambodia is a fantastic country full of wonderfully friendly people -- sure, it'll take a few days to adjust, but I'm willing to bet that you won't want to leave after a while! First, to assuage your fears about flying, please know that China Airlines is a perfectly respectable airline, particularly for long-haul international trips. The service on Asian airlines is generally head and shoulders above that of U.S.-based airlines, so you'll likely be in for a pleasant surprise. And if it makes you feel any better, the "reputation" you speak of regarding safety applies far more to internal Chinese flights than it does to long-haul ones from the States, like the one you'll be taking. I've given you a link below to some (favorable) reviews of China Airlines -- hopefully that will set your mind at ease a little. And as for Bangkok Airlines, that's perfectly fine as well -- I've flown with them before and have had absolutely no trouble. Again, I think you'll be impressed with the service; Bangkok Airlines bills itself as Thailand's "boutique" airline. Again, I've given you a link to a review. As for the time you spend in Cambodia, you don't say where you'll be going, but Phnom Penh and Siem Reap are both definite musts, as well as the beach town of Sihanoukville, if you can make it there as well. Phnom Penh has fabulous markets, a beautiful river, the amazing Royal Palace, and tons of great dining options. Khmer food is something of a mix between Thai and Vietnamese (think rice and noodle-based dishes), and it's absolutely delicious. The national dish is called Amok, and I highly recommend eating as much of it as you can! You'll also want to see the Killing Fields and Tuol Sleng Prison Camp where Pol Pot tortured and imprisoned hundreds of Cambodians -- though these are both fairly harrowing experiences, and you may not want to do them on the same day. A tip: the Boddhi Tree Cafe opposite Tuol Sleng is a beautiful and calm place to have lunch or a drink before or afterwards. Siem Reap, of course, is home to Angkor Wat, and the dozens of other 11th and 12th century temples surrounding it. You'll want to rent a horse and cart for the day (should cost you about $10 USD with a little bargaining!) You'll need a passport photo to get your pass -- you can have one taken there, but if there's a line, it'll be quicker to just bring your own. Siem Reap also has great restaurants and bars -- and two excellent markets! If you can possibly eat in a place called the Khmer Kitchen, you'll be richly rewarded -- I went there several times on my trip, and Mick Jagger has even eaten there too! Finally, prices in Cambodia are cheap, cheap, cheap. You'll be using the U.S. dollar, but if you pay for something small (a can of soda, say) you'll be given your change back in the local currency, which is called riel. You can use your ATM card to get money out of local ATMs (check with your bank about how much you'll be charged; I banked with Wachovia and was charged a very small fee, about 1% of whatever I took out), and take comfort in the fact that, at least in the bigger cities, there's an Internet cafe on every corner, so you'll be able to keep in touch with friends back home. Remember also NOT to drink the water from the taps -- try to keep your mouth closed when you're showering, even. Bottled water is widely available and very cheap; but check the seal to make sure it's not broken. Hope this helps -- Cambodia is one of my favorite countries to visit, and I'm hoping to make it back this Christmas. The people are so friendly and open-hearted, especially considering the gruesome things they've gone through. You might want to invest in a guidebook -- we used the Lonely Plant Cambodia and were pleased with it. Honestly, don't worry about anything -- you'll have an absolute blast, I'm sure of it. Good luck! --Holly
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You are going to have one amazing time in Cambodia. It is totally naturally to feel apprehensive about a trip, especially one that is 14 hours across the Pacific and the first overseas trip of your life! Be nervous, be apprehensive, but be an exciting nervous and apprehensive. The flight will be fine, trust me. And you will have your own interactive TV to watch movies, play games, send text messages, etc. the entire flight so it will go by "fast." I have been to Cambodia twice. The flight is long but it is worth every minute of it. Cambodia is an amazing country. I will be honest with you, it is still very poor, but the people there are so friendly and so warm that you will not even notice the struggles these people go through. Well, there will be many beggers always wanting you to give them a dollar and you will be bugged by motorcycle taxis for rides somewhere, but they mean no harm, just business. Learn a phrase or two or three or four in Khmer to say to them - they will love it! And in regards to disease and what not, well, everywhere has diseases. Prostitution is a big business in Cambodia, unfortunately, but I do not suspect you will have a problem with that. As for diseases when it comes to foods, I would personally stay away from street vendors who sell papaya salad because both times I went to Cambodia, I ate that. The first time resulted in horrible diarrhea that lasted well into a couple of weeks after I returned to the U.S. and the second time wasn't as bad because I experimented by only eating a little bit and I was fine in a day or so. But an overseas trip wouldn't be complete without some adventure and minor illness, right? So just be careful where and what you eat. The first time I was there for only 5 days and got sick the second day from the papaya salad; the second trip I went for 3 weeks and was really healthy and I can't wait to go back. You will absolutlely love the trip. Don't be too apprehensive; just be excited. Cambodia is a safe place. Being safe doesn't constitute negligence of common sense. As with any place, especially cities, there is always petty crime so just use common sense and keep valuable away from the public eye. Also, night time is not as bright as the U.S. seems with street lights and what not, so going around a dark alley at night may not be the smartest thing. Just have fun and smile at everyone because they will smile back. Tell everyone "Soo-a s'day" (Hello in Cambodian). No matter how bad you sound, it will make their day. I hope this helps. You're gonna love it! Remember, the most important thing is to have fun and eat a spider! You'll know what I am talking about when you are walking up and down the Riverfront in Phnom Penh!






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Tuesday, August 21, 2012

My wife is humiliating me & my friends, but I can't understand why, and don't know what to do

My wife is humiliating me & my friends, but I can't understand why, and don't know what to do...?
I live & work in Cambodia now, but used to live & work for a very long time in the Philippines. I was single for a long time, and then my dad's wife set me up in a relationship with her cousin. Anyhow, when my friends from the Philippines came over to Cambodia for a while, my wife started acting strange: she would be perfectly sweet, nice, caring, and funny as long as it was just her and I in our apartment, but whenever my friends would ask us to join them for lunch or whatever, somewhere between our apartment and wherever we would meet them she would become aggressively spiteful & disrespectful. She would call me an asshole loudly with people around (people I know, too. You see, my friends were staying in the hotel that I work at while they were here in Cambodia), she would push/throw my hand away if I tried to hold her hand, she would refuse to talk to me, she wouldn't sit next to me, and wouldn't reply if anyone spoke to her. My friends treated it lightly and joked about it afterward when my wife wasn't around, but it was very insulting and unpleasant when it was happening: my friends were being very nice and paying for everything, all the restaurant bills, everything. My wife never said "thank you" or anything. After my wife and I would go home, she would be nice again, but when I asked her WHY she was being like that, she just said "Nothing" or "I don't know".... I can't understand this, and I don't know what to do. It's stressing me out and angering me to the point that I'm starting to think I wouldn't mind leaving her. She's raising my blood pressure & insulting my friends.... is this supposed to happen in a normal relationship? I was under the impression that a "significant other" was supposed to make you life EASIER and HAPPIER, not stressful and humiliating....
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She sounds like she is on some sort of weird power trip and is trying to humiliate U in front of your friends, I would never do that to my husband and I would always be polite and say thanks. Tell her she had better stop doing that or U will put her in her place -- right on the street.
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maybe she are jealous of your friends and see how close y'all are. just for awhile when you go out with your friends just leave her at home.
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My guess is that she is behaving to you, as she has seen all her life, a woman treat her man in front of others -- like SHE is queen, and couldn't give a damn about him.... Does her mother treat her father with contempt, by any chance?







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